Getting What We Want – in Marriage

“But I believe that there are marriages where you can have your pool table and she can have her scrapbooking room or garden or whatever it is. But when everyone has what they want, it’s not funny. There’s no conflict.”

~Brad Garrett.

There is little quibbling about this point. Satisfy the streaming urge within the individual and there’s likely to be peace vested for the more important tasks of life.

Yes, that’s common sense.

But how many marriages rail at this very point?

The commonest sticking points could well be the same prattling things we were supposed to iron out in the first year or two.

The Beauty of the Better View

Better views are afforded the couple spending time identifying and quickly meeting these basic personal needs.

Those things out of the way, and their collective perspective opens; a marvellous — though mutually exclusive — vista becomes apparent. They sit together on the park bench of life happily content with existence, and each other, as they’re personally disposed.

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Until this time there’s always the unpredictable threat of conflict. The marriage is never safe.

Strive for the better view. Get past the basics. Meet those needs, for they’re easy to pinpoint and satisfy.

© 2011 S. J. Wickham.