Rejection’s No Ultimate Rejection

“I really wish I was less of a thinking man and more of a fool not afraid of rejection.”

~Billy Joel

How do we get through—to see other than this?

When reconciling a future at the opposite end of bliss,

Yet a time is coming when everything will become new,

What we must do now is simply hold to what’s true.

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Having been stood up or dropped or fired or divorced, whilst it seems life-ending at the time, is no ultimate rejection.

Honing in on the romantic relationship we can see that the partner who rejects us is on another path, which is something we’re no longer part of. It tears us apart. What we’re desperate for we cannot have.

But, no matter how much we don’t want to hear this just now, their rejection of us, though it feels despicably cavernous, is a speck in the universe.

Not only is there a partner out there, perhaps ten or a hundred that might qualify, there are plenty of delicious situations for a future beyond rejection. Our challenge, having eventually dealt with our grief, is to get beyond the constricted thinking of that finite situation and into the broader thinking scope that’s open to see the endless possibility.

What’s True Is Not Altogether Apparent

In the poem above, having been dealt a body blow of rejection, we’re commended to hold to what’s true. And how do we do that and bear the pain as well?

What’s true is not just the pain of rejection, but an equally visible reality; one we don’t readily see. This perspective is about realities far off—a thousand fragments of potential.

However difficult it is to see these potentialities, where we hold open our hope before the flame of faith we begin to see not just one or two ways we can be delivered, but the number like facets on a diamond; more than our minds can hold.

Truth is the holy concept.

It is not just the bad truth; the truths we can’t bear. Truth is about the good truth as well. And there is always good truth to believe in. Our task, if we can believe, is to open our hearts and minds to the endless potential beyond our bad circumstance.

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The many rejections we face are no ultimate rejection. There is always hope beyond any rejection. It can be hard to see that hope. But with faith beyond what we can see, we can begin to see some of the endless potential beyond our bad circumstance.

© 2012 S. J. Wickham.