Anger, it seems to me, is a
control issue. When we are out of control, we flounder; anger is a response of
resistance to frustration. Given exactly the same scenario the next person
would respond the same way. Once we have accepted anger is a legitimate
response, we can begin to work with our situations to improve them; to plan
better; to practice more effective responses. Let’s go beyond guilt and shame
for our anger and work to help ourselves out. In that, others are blessed.
That’s got to be a good aim.
There are many good reasons for reconciling the irrationality of
anger.
Where we can understand these reasons we can accept them, and,
of course, we can go on into a better location of mental, emotional, and
spiritual health. Surely this is God’s will for us. Surely we please God
supremely when we grapple with the truth and understand ourselves to the core,
so we are better for others’ lives.
Anger is surely the invitation to understand from whence it
comes.
Anger is surely the barb of the soul piqued and jaded and
prompted no end toward working until there is a solution—even if that sometimes
is mere, yet powerful, acceptance. Still, like too many others, we accept our
anger by our justifications. We don’t significantly employee the process of
enquiry.
Why are we angry? What is our
anger telling us? And is it satisfactory to remain the way that we are? These
and many more questions are relevant.
When anger surfaces there is a current, that might as well be a
stream of hollow discontent, bubbling well below the outer crust. It might as
well be volcanic, and for all we know the internal ructions spell a potential
eruption of unprecedented proportions. This is why anger is so dangerous, for
we just don’t know when it might get out of control.
Hence the reason we explore it proactively.
When we ask ourselves questions of query, and we don’t protect
ourselves against the answer, we may find God is revealing to us truth that may
hurt initially, but is destined for our good.
Whatever is challenged in the light dispels darkness.
When we hold something within ourselves—in this case, the
irrationality of anger—and expose it to such a light it cannot help but be
transformed.
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An attempt to understand anger may
be just what is needed as we invite light to shed truth on the darkness. When
we do not fear our anger, but instead we explore it, without shame or guilt, we
may invite God to heal us both of using its damaging energy and the damage it
can cause.
© 2013 S. J. Wickham.
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