Depression is so insidious as to wreak havoc with our sense for
sensibility. We begin to second guess even our surest thoughts. Confidence runs
to a plummet. Energy is ravaged. Sleep is chequered. Enjoyment is fleeting. And
motivation to achieve vanishes.
A ministry of compassion is needed to
assist the depressed.
Such a base of compassion runs cross grain
to the sense that humanity has. Compassion has an eternal sense about it that
never needs to judge or condemn. It seems to understand even things that are
incomprehensible.
What the depressed person needs is
compassion – a self-enrolled compassion as well as a compassion that’s given by
others.
Compassion always lives for the other
person, allowing them to be just what and who they want; no questions asked.
Faith is a given.
The depressed person who comes face to face
with someone who’s safe can finally rest, safe and with essential
vulnerabilities intact. What a gift it is for the depressed person to have the
freedom and space. There is no need of judgment or condemnation or
ostricisation. In fact, with compassion there is empathy, warmth, and genuine
care given. Compassion has no need of itself; it is totally other focused.
And this is crucial if healing is to take
place; indeed, get started.
Compassion makes the path to healing an
eventual destination through peace. When the depressed person has no fear
competing for their focus or attention, the path of healing may be seen.
Compassion is the missing link with regard
to what we feel is never more needed. When we are depressed, when our whole
world has imploded on us, with our perspective shrunken, we still need
perspective.
Compassion is perspective, given that any
time we left and expected things to turn out nicely, we had perspective,
whether they turned out or not. Where we went with others into the making of a
study into the genealogy of our fear we knew that we were finally on the right
track.
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We need to reconcile that the world is
changing.
And, because the world changing is not
necessarily a good thing, that leaves us with a dogmatic choice. But, held in
tension with studying about depression, and skilling ourselves up, is the
reality that things aren’t changing. That can be a huge annoyance in people; those
who are even just coming aboard a self-understanding that they need to change
when they feel they can’t. We need to understand that all these colliding
forces are a mystery that don’t need to be explained, just held and accepted
with compassion.
© 2014 S. J. Wickham.
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