As I shovelled mulch into the wheelbarrow I had four young male
students engage me in the finer points of the work. One was Indian, another Caucasian, another
African American, and the final boy was Asian.
I was captivated more by their unity of friendship than their curiosity
for my work, even as I did explain the benefits of mulch for gardens and how to
move the product.
Their unity shouldn’t have seemed strange. It should make us enquire about it, and give
us cause to celebrate it. And though it
would seem that these four boys would have their disagreements from time to time,
as occurs in all walks of life when we share a common space with others, it
appears that there’s more that connects them than separates them.
Yet, as we grow older, and certainly into adolescence and
subsequent adulthood, we’re more often than not polarised by our world to be
separatist in one way or other. We’re
expected to choose political and religious alliances, not to mention the fact
we’re trained in life to have an opinion on almost everything.
As soon as we decide to have a view we prove ourselves as
separatist, unless we hold in mature tension the idea that there is one thing more important than the view we’ve chosen. That is that the next person’s right to
choose in opposition is as sacred a right as ours is to choose as we have
done. If we’ve agreed beforehand that
that will be our value, we have every right to hold a view.
We must always hold ourselves to the shortest account on our
suspicion of others and of our excusing of ourselves. We question the other’s motive, yet our motive
is as pure as driven snow. That’s default
human nature; we have to contend with ourselves first and foremost. The problem is in us, or begins with us, not
so much the other person. (Of course,
the opposite is also true, if we look at things from their viewpoint.)
***
Four six-year-old boys, each of different ethnicity, yet best of
friends, taught me that unity transcends difference. What love puts together, indifference will
not separate.
© 2016 Steve Wickham.
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