You can do anything, at least much different than you think

There have been times in my life when I felt utterly justified in my insistence that others change.  It was so simple in retrospect to become free of it.  Depart from it.  Just like that.

But, when you’re in it, it’s not that simple.  It never is.  Except that some things happen in your life that you couldn’t have done—divine intervention I’m talking about.

Here’s the thing.  You can do anything, at least much more than you think, especially as it pertains to that estranged relationship you’re trying to fix, rekindle, reconcile, or have justice in any way about.

You can’t change them.  They’ve got no idea what knots you’re in, the twists and turns and tumbles it’s caused in you, the turmoil you’ve been through.  If they had, they’d think much ado about nothing.  It would incense you.

It’s torturous.

And it’s unsustainable.

There are these circumstances that contort us, that make us angry in every single way, because we’re ashamed we cannot control this ‘little’ aspect of our lives.  It’s as if this little thing becomes all-consuming, much to the degree that it feels larger than it is, ought to be, even larger than life itself.

It’s at this point you think you’re going mad.  You know you should have more control to let it go.  But you don’t.  It infuriates you, which only makes the private crisis worse, threatening to make it more public than you’d like it to be.

It’s far easier than it needs to be.

It doesn’t need to be a one-person rampage and conquest for change.  A wearing yourself out for next to nothing.  When you know things are not going to change.

It’s easy to up and walk the other way, to depart from one insane way of being, for the insistence that certain things ought to be another way entirely.

You’re free.  You’re bonded to nothing but that which your mind says you are.

Time to walk into the light and stay in the light to be in the light, free from the burden of a struggle that is not yours.

Even if a struggle is yours, it’s yours to take it up in such a way as to open space for possibilities for change.  Faith is the bridge that must be crossed, for it’s only by faith that the impossible is realised.

When our aim is to do good, instead of doing what we think is right, we may have what it takes to end up doing what’s right, because we have a good motive.  Pushing our way around is not the way to get things done.

If you’ve been trying to move on... you can.

Life has a way of working out when we let it be as it is.

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