Having a good relationship is not just about communicating better; it’s more about attending to the miscommunication that diminishes and destroys meaning in relationships. Miscommunication is the biggest relational challenge we face in this world where communication characterises the quality of relationships.
But not only does communication dictate the quality of our relationships, it often defines our relationships’ strength and longevity. Most divorces will be precipitated within the sharpness or dullness of miscommunication.
Clarity is what we sorely need in redressing such miscommunication.
Exploring How Miss Communication Can Become Mrs Clarity
If we can agree that clarity is the antidote to miscommunication, we can transform a negative into a positive. We are much more likely to decrease our miscommunication when we focus positively on improving the clarity of our communication.
If we personify miscommunication as a novice (Miss Communication) and clarity as the more experienced person (Mrs Clarity) we can know that our communication faults can be addressed; that we all have hope for development toward the enhancement of our relationships through clearer communication.
Beyond the frailties of the human mind, which is prone to lapses and absentmindedness, there is much we can be mindful for when it comes to communicating with marital partners, loved ones, work colleagues, and friends.
Much miscommunication can be addressed by taking care of the words we use, when we use them, and even by how we communicate. Nothing substitutes a face-to-face conversation where both are focused on the conversation, the words are kept plain and understandable, and then agreement is reached and then reiterated. When communication is crystal clear, clarity is achieved. Both parties are under no false allusion.
Blessed are relationships that are rich in clarity; where trust has been nurtured and continues to grow in multiplicity, because communication issues are averted in the planning before they reach crisis point.
Miss Communication is the person of inexperience, of ineptitude, and of moral lack. Such a person doesn’t have the diligence to care so much for the relationship to make all the effort required to circumvent misunderstanding.
Mrs Clarity, on the other hand, has learned, both by easy and hard ways, that Miss Communication is no option for her. She has made her metamorphosis from that state of incapable inexperience to a more preferable state: a reliable person to be in relationship with.
So, if we were to use marriage as a metaphor, we might imagine Miss Communication being swept off her feet by Mr Clarity. Such a marriage of understanding is consummated when Miss Communication becomes Mrs Clarity.
Relationship success is not just about communicating better. It’s more about reducing the amount of miscommunication. Clarity of communication takes care and effort to check and recheck. Clarity is the outcome where trust and respect are valued.
© 2012 S. J. Wickham.