FOUR words my wife said when she
thought I was being proactive in the housework: “Are you being amazing?”
She’s said it more than once. But
recently I got to thinking there’s radical power in those words that always
inspire me to do more housework. Now
let’s get it straight. I’m no excellent-house-husband. As my wife will tell
you, I am a ‘husband with potential.’ Big difference.
And, I am certainly a
words-of-affirmation love-language guy, so I get it if you think, ‘what’s he on
about?’
It’s the way she said what she
said. The inflection, the humour in her mock surprise, the feeling in me (I’m
winning), and her just being sweet. It was the way she used her eyes. All in
four simple words that took mere seconds to communicate.
That’s what makes marriage isn’t
it?
Such a moment of relational victory
juxtaposes with the trying seasons where conflict reigns. It communicates the
power of connection in intimacy.
Something one partner does to love
the other without need of return. The other partner noticing something done for
the right (loving) reason. The power of a simple, heartfelt complement, a hug,
the giving of a meaningful gift, the spending of time, or simply a helping
hand.
Four words as a soundbite; no
matter how long it is till death parts us, we have moments like this to cherish.
She got the thrill of having been funny, loving and inspiring at the same time.
It inspired the day or two following for both of us. And it is immortalised in
this short piece, for reflection in the future. It’s just part of what makes my
wife the best wife for me!
Humour helps create intimacy in
marriage when both partners are free to have fun together, especially within
the mundane.
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