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THIS article is actually about another article; an
offering so bright about such an oft dull topic: marriage. “Dull?” I hear you say… yes, Dull!
But isn’t dull good? Seriously.
Yet I don’t at all mean dull in the
sense of boring. I mean dull in the sense of utterly imperfect as in seeing yet
not seeing . . . as in what the apostle Paul mentioned in 1 Corinthians 13:12a,
“For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face.”
Marriage, now, is dull, and with
our partner we see dimly at best, as do they, but one day soon, when marriage
is superfluous, because we shall no longer need it, we will see the Lord face
to face. Our marriage with God will be delight.
Now, I am sure there are those who
will read who will say, “What planet is the guy on? My marriage is magnificent!”
Of course, it is. I am so thankful for mine, too. My marriage is magnificent.
But not in the ways I thought it would be magnificent when I first said, “I do.”
Your marriage may be sheer bliss, every moment. You do have an extraordinary
marriage! But isn’t every marriage extraordinary? Every single partnering with
a commitment ‘til death do us part’ is a miracle of righteous romance.
Magnificent, yet dull. We are marred by our human condition, and as a man I must
confess that marring is telling and fatal. It is as terrible as it is certain.
My wife loves me, there is no question in that, but the fact is, she deserves
more; much more than I can give. Some men say they ‘married
up’. Well, we all miss the mark
by a significant amount.
My thesis is that romance is ordinary.
It lasts a few fleeting moments and then, as a vapour, it wafts away . . . but
the real romance is dullness endured. That’s the real love story. Will you sit
there while I cut my toe nails? Can you endure my bathroom odour? Are the errands
of life something we can do together? Shall I tell you what disgusts me? Do
please help me clean up the children’s messes. And . . . what will you do when
I say, “Leave me alone?” Will you stay?
Dull, but good. Dull, magnificently
dull.
How magnificent that, though we see
dimly, we still have the decency to see it through to the bitter end. Through
thick and thin, that is love. That there’s nothing you can do to dissuade me!
Magnificence in marriage is saying,
“I am, all of me, all yours!”
Love is both partners smiling amid the
truth: the good, the bad, and the ugly.
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