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Every now and then I’ve come across someone who is in a deep
hole, but they’re determined to build some stairs and fight their way out of it.
This kind of person is determined to make something of the crisis they’re in.
They refuse to be defined by it. They insist they’ll be defined by their
response. I love working with such people. And I’ve had the honour of mentoring
and pastorally caring for a few of them.
And every time, without exception,
I’ve seen their lives resurrected and restored.
I’ve seen their lives resurrected and restored.
I call them 1-in-100 people. They do the one-percenters. They are the one-percenters! They are
one-percenters, because they do the one-percenters. They’re one-in-a-hundred.
The nine-nine percent on the other hand may blame circumstances
on others or God or on the ‘fate’ against them. And many do have a case. It is unjust. But staying camped in the
land of complaint doesn’t get them anywhere except deeper into bitterness and
resentment. If anything, here there is a resistance to taking control of the
only control we have — to respond well. We’re all tempted to find an excuse,
and that is why the 99 outnumber the one like they do. It’s the common response.
Yet, they do themselves and others they love and care about a
great disservice. They do not become all of what they could become. They do not convert their adversity into their
advocate, and instead make it their adversary.
The one, on the other hand,
converts their adversity into their advocate.
converts their adversity into their advocate.
Those who are in the one-in-a-hundred set are a pleasure to
their Maker. He sets off in search of them, leaving the 99 in safe pasture — which
is shorthand for comfort against change. It’s where we spend the vast majority
of most our lives. Anyone who has been in the 1-in-100 will know the nature of
the pursuit of God. God pursues the one, and in that they can feel His
uniqueness as His mark on them.
The one-in-a-hundred make it their conquest
to learn something vitalising in their grief.
to learn something vitalising in their grief.
They insist there has to be a reason and a purpose
for why this thing happened. They don’t settle
for discouragement and despair.
for why this thing happened. They don’t settle
for discouragement and despair.
They give way to their weakness, because they know their
strength — the way it was — has gone. They’re honest. They’re so determined in
their honesty that they make it their purpose and passion to recover. Their
recovery becomes them.
For counsellors, pastors and chaplains, and other mentoring helpers,
it is crucial to call those who come to us desperate and destitute of
spirit to the one-in-one-hundred set. We suggest it’s their call; that God has
bigger things planned for their individual life. We don’t have to roll out the cliché
— God has a plan for this in your life…
We call them to persevere,
even as we journey with them.
even as we journey with them.
If you know a one-in-one-hundred kind of person, tag them in
this post or share it with them. Affirm them for responding in ways that are
sharply contrastive of typical society.
Perhaps that person is deep amid their trial and need to be
reminded that God loves them and there is recovery and big plan ahead for them.
That they need to be encouraged to hold on.
Maybe they need to be reminded
just how rare they are in their response.
just how rare they are in their response.
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