What is Always Left Unsaid, Never is Ever Put to Bed

IT’S PART OF EVERY COMPLETED PROJECT. Barring none, it’s part of every marriage too. It’s part of life as we know it. It’s the unreconciled moment; banishing a skerrick of trust. Erosion by other means.

The power of the reconciled moment is awesome in ‘Relationship World.’

When we have the awareness to revisit the moment, people find us unusual for the fact that such awareness is almost unheard of. The “sorry” the next day hence—the 30-seconds that takes in an otherwise busy day—is a huge investment to the positive and into the unknown future of that relationship.

We will always transgress, as we too will be transgressed. It’s life.

But life is far more than just one project or one day after the other. Life is about people. Without people, our world and existence is totally meaningless.

With people—and relationships—all things are possible, especially when we believe in the miracle by choosing to believe in them. Projects are never so complete with this component left out of them. How can we move on if there are undealt-with issues afoot? But this too, seems to be our way. We promise to forget but we can’t. The erosion happens too deeply for us to comprehend its damage.

When entering into relationships of any kind, we must watch especially our parting words and looks.

We should get into the habit of reflecting over what things we’ve said and how the other reacted; likewise, we should reflect over any niggling issues we have with people and what they said and did. Though forgiveness is ideally a two-way deal, we must still forgive them, even with no promise of requitement.

In tolerance, it is critically important to forgive. This is an exclusive condition of living a redeemed life. We forgive. No ifs, buts or maybes.

People are key. Whether we like it or not, this is true. People are key.

Life’s most fundamental aim is to simply forgive. Once we understand this and begin applying it, life all of a sudden starts to make a lot more sense.

© 2010 S. J. Wickham.