“For reducing anger and aggression, the worst possible advice to
give people is to tell them to imagine their provocateur’s face on a pillow or
punching bag as they wallop it...”
— Brad J. Bushman (2002)[1]
According to Bushman’s study, where he had three research groups
to observe regarding anger responses, catharsis
theory—thinking about the person who has angered us and venting anger using
a punching bag or punching a pillow—is nonsense. Such a response only angers us
more.
He found that of the groups that 1) did nothing regarding
someone else hurting them, or 2) simply became distracted instead of responding,
that the group that thought about the person who had angered them, and acted
out their rage, actually increased their
residual anger and aggression rather than decreasing it.
Punching a bag or screaming into a pillow doesn’t actually alleviate
anger.
Furthermore, the group that was distracted (not venting their
anger on a punching bag) were less angry than the punching bag group but were no
less aggressive. It was only the (control) group that did nothing as a result
of their anger, but were required to sit quietly for 2 minutes who had an
effective response through the reduction of anger.
Venting anger seems to be like pouring fuel on an already raging
fire.
Distracting people in their anger merely delays their angry
response.
Doing nothing but sitting quietly for 2 minutes reduced anger.
This teaches us a lot about anger—our mounting anger in response
to another’s offence. We are better off becoming distracted than we are
thinking on and acting out our anger. But even better is doing nothing in the moment.
So how are we to respond by ‘doing nothing’ in situations that
provoke our anger in ways that are effective?
Better
Ways for Anger Management
What we learn from this study is that simply sitting quietly,
managing our mood as best we can, is as effective as any of us can manage.
Of course, Christians have another technique: prayer. Rather than venting in prayer,
which may help at times in the process of grieving, it might be better to sit
quietly in our minds and hearts in facilitating the reception of God’s peace.
What delaying our responses in the quietness of our minds and
hearts achieves is the facilitation of the higher
mind. This frontal lobe part of our brains—the Neocortex—is developed
through delaying instinctive responses like anger.
We are better off not acting on our angry feelings, but praying
to God for quietness within our hearts and minds, such that our higher minds
might advise the right response at the right time and in the right way. Yes,
with God’s help, we can train our minds to cope better with angry feelings.
© 2012 S. J. Wickham.
[1] Brad J. Bushman. (2002) “The Venting Anger Feed or Extinguish
the Flame? Catharsis, Rumination, Distraction, Anger, and Aggressive
Responding” in Personality and Social
Psychology Bulletin (28:724).
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