The infuriation of conflict,
Is helped only when we own what’s ours,
To understand our own fault,
Is our reliance on all of God’s powers.
Is our reliance on all of God’s powers.
***
The only chance
we have to shift the stalemate is to own what’s ours, though so many times it
still won’t shift the other party. But it does mean we can now move forward –
if one (us) can take our own responsibility.
To work through
to a way-forward point we need to take responsibility for our side of the
impasse. Only when we do so – when we allow God to penetrate our understanding
to the point of confession – will we give the relationship any chance at all.
And often it’s not truly about this
relationship; it’s about our relationship with the Lord. Would we pass into
eternity with such baggage to deal with before him? It should never be.
Three Reasons for
Taking Responsibility
The primary
reason for taking responsibility for our part in the fault is to be honest
before God. The secondary reason is to give the relationship, itself, the
chance it needs (don’t forget, this is a test of their integrity before the
Lord, too). The tertiary reason is for our own peace of mind.
The first reason
is most important. It’s between us and God. Conflicts that last and last are at
the real peril of becoming a real issue for us if we take the impasse into
eternity with us; to face God knowing we should have redressed the matter while
we had the chance. See how important it is to forgive someone by seeing our
portion of the blame? We cannot expect the full and unmerited forgiveness of
God if we are not prepared also to forgive.
The second
reason is life – life in this life. We are responsible for the blessing and the
cursing of others. We will be held
responsible if we withhold our grace. Besides, why in our right minds would we
want another person to feel bitterness because of our acts or inactions?
The third reason
is also important. We all deserve a peaceful life. We don’t get it unless we
know we’ve done all within our own power, so far as it depends on us, to live
at peace with everyone. We may not succeed fully, but if we’ve tried our best
we should be able to sleep at night.
***
We move forward
through forgiveness when we understand three things: 1) If God has forgiven us
he expects us to forgive others. 2) Bitterness between people is never good. 3)
Living peacefully relies on living at peace with our world.
© 2014 S. J.
Wickham.
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