Marathons are excruciating affairs of endurance.
The athlete is
inspired to register their entry, they do so, and then they devote many hours
in the preparation. They prepare mentally, physically, emotionally, and maybe
even spiritually. Their wellbeing is under constant surveillance, for the
journey is too long to allow a single compromise. Their diet is strictly
controlled and days out from the event there is the careful portioning of
protein and carbohydrate — not to mention the supplements they choose to take
as extra insurance. There is, perhaps, a difficulty in sleeping as race time
draws near, and fatigue may be the unwanted nemesis. With the starting line in
view, and the starter’s gun fired, she is off!
The race has begun.
Marriage is no race,
but for reaching the finishing line — “til death do us part” — intact.
The marathon runner
is pacing herself as she strides the opening miles at good, though reserved,
pace. The course is known and there is due execution of the plan that has been
carefully designed and prayed over.
With marriage, of
course, the course is unknown. Many unknown mountains need to be climbed, not
to mention the valleys to be endured. The early going sees much excitement — and
maybe some trouble — but nothing like what we will experience as the race winds
on through the lonely chicanes. Depending on how we feel, we might settle in
for some balanced and triumphant miles. But, sooner or later, the drudgery will
affect us mentally, and that’s where we need to stay sharp. Such drudgery is an
inside job — and we need to say, “Get behind me, Satan!”
The marathon runner, likewise, has temptations
to quit. The course is harder than she imagined, and there’s the unexpected
encounter with shin splints — a pain that feels like an explosion in the leg
every time each foot lands. There’s no blood, but there are tears and lots of
them, and the grimacing face is the sign of a will being tested to its bitter
extremes. As she keeps putting one foot in front of the other, there is the
nagging thought of giving up that gnaws away at her. But she cannot. Not just
yet, anyway.
Similarly, the marriage suffers upsets
and some of them seem impossible to get through — certainly as they are experienced
in bristling momentousness of hurt. But there is hope if we can keep striding by
addressing this ‘injury’ on the run. So long as we think laterally, we can stay
in the running. And then some marriages become a DNF — did not finish. The
injury was too great. The runner(s) gave in to the gargantuan pressure. But the
marriage where communication and compromise are regularly met and re-invented
is the marriage that endures to the end.
And so it is.
If marriage can embrace the dark
valleys and the arduous high mountain climbs it can enjoy the terrific massif
vistas that beckon at life’s end.
A marriage enjoyed sets itself apart
as the thesis of life that God called it to be.
© 2015 S. J. Wickham.
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