“The
moment an ill can be patiently handled, it is disarmed of its poison, though
not of its pain.”
~Henry
Ward Beecher
It is the cost for love. We who
would love would, equally, choose to be ambushed by the pain of loss, whenever
that loss avails itself upon us, usually in the least predicted moment. We are
destined to be blindsided for the love we have enjoyed—even that which was
merely a concept.
The lasting truth of pain is some
sadistic testimony of the abysmal fathoms we can sink to, having scaled the
majestic stratosphere of love.
The pain of anguish enlivened in
love gone wrong, whether by death or breakup or anything else, is an ache
unparalleled. Yet, God is able to help. God is able to encourage us to endure
the pain, lasting as it is, in such a way that the poison in the pain may be
neutralised.
Pain Leads Either To Bitterness Or
Betterness
In a simple black-or-white world
we have two basic choices regarding how we will handle our losses. Either the
pain will poison us, turning us bitter, or it will advise us in a humble wisdom
to patiently endure.
Pain will be a companion in
connection with the loss we experience; and though it may transform and
eventually diminish, it will remain.
The person who resents this fact
has sadly placed themselves upon the altar of worship, substituting the place dedicated
for God—and, somehow, God is to be placed on the altar of sacrifice. It is a
ridiculous notion that we could be hurt by God in our losses, given that losses
occur universally. It’s ironic that we bargain with God; we have neither power
nor role. Who would usurp God?
Though, we are still afforded the
compassion of empathy for those bitter against God. We pray their blindness
will diminish, for their own sakes.
When the courage is found to face
our pain, as we somehow find a moment’s patient acceptance, the mysterious
poison of bitterness ebbs meekly away.
The Sheer Importance Of Faith In Getting
Better
To commit to becoming better is
the commitment to engage in faith.
Faith is not just a religious
concept. It is very much a practical level of trust we issue in everyday life
by our decisions to surrender to the way life works itself out for us. Faith is
a very practical agreement with ourselves that the whole world doesn’t revolve
around us. Faith ensures we hold ourselves to account for a mature approach to
life.
Getting better is about taking a
holiday from our proud insistences—one of those vacations where we only buy a
one-way ticket. We must stop demanding of God.
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Pain either makes us bitter or it
compels us to become better. By faith we have a mechanism that helps us commit
to becoming better. Faith helps us to respect the pain, yet deal with the
poison in our losses. Faith ensures healing where we can honour the lasting truth
of our pain.
© 2012 S. J. Wickham.
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